2016… Looking forward with rambling insights & optimism…January 5, 2016 - Author: Jennifer Mylod - Comments are closed
Well… 2016 dawned… and unlike most of the New Years Eve partiers out there… watching fireworks, cheering, toasting while sipping fancy drinks, and dancing with wild abandon… I opted for the quieter side… watching a few good movies, curled up with my dog on the sofa and happily shared a bowl of popcorn with his ever-wagging eagerness. So I woke up, to greet 2016… in the dim grey light of the morning… bright eyed and bushy tailed.
A few weeks before Christmas, I decided… being the true, proverbial Archer – to set my sights on some new targets & goals for the long winter ahead. I’m one of those -who, if I’m not active… I start to get a bit cranky. The faux winter weather we’ve been having, has been a bit more than dreary and cold, so my ‘go to’ outdoor activity, being the long miles of road cycling, has been placed on the back burner for awhile. I loathe the indoor trainer… and find the “hamster wheel’ feel of it – pretty unbearable… just not that kinda girl.
And as for kayaking… passion #2… I’m a bit more hopeful.. seeing as the bay isn’t frozen yet, and the unusual “winter” temperatures have kept this – remaining on the horizon still, as an option. With the occasional warm day here & there… and my trusty Kokotat, dry boots & gear… I can make kayaking… an unexpected, delightful possibility for sure…
And then there’s the gym… and the allure of the Arc machine’s promise of a good, solid, cardio workout… But the mobs of “resolution-ites” who will undoubtedly be flooding the gym, in hopes to enthusiastically approach their new year’s goals… have daunted my desire to even go near the gym, and cringe away from being any part of that kind of scene. But I know if i give it a few weeks… they’ll fall by the way-side… melting away nearly as quickly as they appeared… leaving the dedicated ones behind…. like a surging tide… and the wave of giddy, hopeful, stylishly outfitted optimists… rushing their way in, with churning power… tumbling, crawling feverishly onto the shore… then, seconds later… to quickly retreat back… leaving in it’s recoil… the scattered shells & sea glass devotes… who remain for the long haul… still on the shore. Haha… wouldn’t Dylan Thomas roll over in his grave… cringing at that analogy… sometimes I just crack myself up.
So… with these options pretty much not conducive to a good solid, day-to-day work out right now… and knowing that although I’ve been told, I make fiddling look like an aerobic activity… it’s just not enough, nor what I need… so I’ve turned my sights to a new…. hmm… passion – is it? Hot yoga.
Before the new year rush, when everyone else was out frantically holiday-ing… I gave this Hot Yoga a try… and being the “all or nothing” – addictive kinda character I am… I did it again, and again… and I think I can fairly certainly say – I’m hooked. It’s certainly not the high end, hard core, physical activity I’m generally drawn to… but it’s delightfully challenging in the stretching… especially when added with the cerebral focus and joining of mind & body that I love. I was blessed with “Gumby genes”… so the bending & stretching is just a great personal joy I truly like… And a ‘real live’ class… sure does beat my old Rodney Yee dvd’s hands down… as much as I love him. The open minded, meditational edge also appeals to me tremendously.
I know I think too much… and tend to be a high intensity type person… So when faced with the situation to clear my mind, focus on my body, and stretch my muscles out – in heated, enveloping temperatures… that make my pores leak like a sieve… I grab onto it. I love feeling like I’m cleansing myself of toxins at the same time… I think too, it will put me in a beautiful frame of mind and body for Spring – so I can climb back on my road bike… as soon as the weather gets more amiable for getting back to my cycling.
So, does this introspection… and seeking to refine my fitness levels, while enriching self awareness… change me? Does it make me a better person? a better fiddler? a better writer? better singer? a better anything? That’s wholly & completely up to me. I know in order to utilize the benefits of these passions, I need to be as deeply balanced as I can be… and in finding that balance – I will find the ability to calm and expand my mind so I can write and open the channels in my heart to create, and clear the junk away so I can expressively play my fiddle, guitar, dulcimer & mandolin… and pour my purest, best self – into all things… and hopefully – in that way… I can be better…
Note: This is not a goal to be “the best”… oh no. That’s never my goal. I don’t compete… plain and simple. I don’t compete with anyone else… and trust me, there’s not a living soul – who can compete with me… worse or harder than I compete with myself. My goal… is to just be – the best I can.
So I guess, in examining the gifts I’ve been shown – and given – this year… and knowing that giving back – is oft times… the best part of the reward…. I can honestly say, in retrospect… that I have done my best this year… for friends – new & old, strangers and family alike… many times, without hesitation. If I thought it was right, or good, and I believed I could do it… I did it. Whether it was to lend a hand, give support, or of myself – I tried my best… and… though I’m not gonna dwell on this… as I know, I need to become better at it… and some who know me, and are reading this… won’t believe it… but I have held my tongue and said nothing – more times than not… especially when I really wanted to cry out in frustration, aggravation or anger… I can say… I did not.
So in conclusion… gazing back through all of this, I ask myself… what have I done? What have I achieved?
I’ve reached farther into seeking fitness. I’ve learned when to hold on, and when to let go. I have recognized things I should have done – and things I shouldn’t have done… yet hold no regrets. The list could go on and on, and I think I’ve written enough today… But mostly, I learned this year, that the heart is an ever expanding, endless plane… and when you let yourself go, and you give yourself over to love… “to love with a love that is more than love” (Edgar Allen Poe) and then… sadly, you lose that love… it feels unbearable… but I’ve learned – with patience & by keeping the heart open… that a wonderful, new love – a love even greater… will flood into that empty space – that was left in your heart.
Love – is fluid.
It will come flooding in – if you allow, and fill the spaces in your heart. So if you focus on the beautiful, the joyous, the good, the kind, the gentle, and the loving things that surround you… then that is what you will receive… love is everywhere… you just have to look…